Learning to be confident is a journey, a process that all of us are going through. Self-confidence is something that comes from a place deep within ourselves; it all starts with embracing who we are and love everything about ourselves. Of course, it’s easier said than done, but I’m going to explain the three basics which can help you feel better about yourself. It may sound impossible to find self-confidence but, trust me, it can be done!
C h a n g e Y o u r P o s t u r e
The first thing you must do is change the way you carry yourself—which refers to your posture. You should think about what a confident body looks like. Usually, a confident body has their shoulders pushed back, chin up, face forward, and a straight back. That type of body posture shows that you are ready to conquer whatever comes in your way. It’s actually a proven scientific fact—body posture and power poses increase hormones in your body which signals to your mind that you are confident, and you’ll start to believe it too. It’s as simple as that, but you must be consistent. So next time you find yourself at a social event: be aware of your posture. Are you slouching your back and crossing your arms? Or are you taking up the space with your head high? Change it to a position where you’ll feel confident.
C h a n g e Y o u r F o c u s
If you want to gain self-confidence you MUST focus on the positives! You have to pay attention to your strengths and the things you love about yourself, rather than focusing on the negatives. If you notice, people who are insecure focus on everything they hate about themselves, which is unhealthy. What you need to do is list out every single thing you like about yourself—it will actually help boost your confidence. If you consistently focus on the good, your confidence will start to grow without you even noticing.
C h a n g e Y o u r T a l k
You need to be changing your self-talk. You might not notice it, but you’re constantly talking to yourself throughout the day, feeding yourself with thoughts. The things, the words you say to yourself, reflect who you are and your level of self-confidence. If you’re scrolling through Instagram and constantly comparing yourself by saying things like: “I wish I could be her, have her life, be prettier ”, etc; That’s not productive thinking, and you will end up feeling like crap. Therefore, your self talk must change! You should start paying more attention to your self talk. Start speaking to yourself with love and kindness, catch yourself every time a negative thought appears in your mind. Practice positive affirmations (a statement that you repeat until it's a part of your subconscious) daily so that they’ll be ingrained into mind and you will start to believe them. Once that happens you’ll be so much more confident in yourself.
Those are my three simple tips on gaining self-confidence. Try these out and see how it goes, because you deserve to be confident and to love yourself. I know it’s hard. Self-confidence is a process and it takes time, but if you put in the effort the outcome will be life-changing. Be confident and make sure to love yourself.