Have you ever been told to look on the bright side? Well, I have.
Whenever I am feeling low, sad, or insecure, I often get told that I should just focus on the positive aspects of my life. And yes, it is so great to be thankful for your life and everything you have, but when we face problems or even just negative feelings we don’t understand, ignoring them often makes things worse in the long run.
Ignoring your emotions and just being happy usually doesn’t make you genuinely happy, it simply means you are avoiding facing your difficult and complex emotions. The best way to truly deal with these difficult emotions is to engage in difficult and delicate conversations about yourself and your problems that will ultimately make you stronger as a person.
Trust me, I’ve been there, done that. I thought that if I just focused on the beautiful aspects of my life, I wouldn’t feel my pain or think about my insecurities. But one day, all of those feelings bottled up inside me imploded because I didn’t face them when I felt them. Instead of talking about them, I had bottled them up and buried them deep.
I think when you go through rough patches in life, you should talk about them, learn as much as you can from the situation you are in, and lastly and most importantly, wave them goodbye when you kick them out of your life! Having those conversations will help you realize that you are strong, beautiful, and perfectly imperfect.